Tuesday, February 3, 2015

NAS: Qualities in Your Husband

What are the qualities and characteristics that you are looking for in your future husband? We have talked about what we don't want, but it's good to have an idea of those things that are important to us. Discerning religious life? This applies to communities, as well!

Linking up with Jen and Morgan for another week of the not alone series.  

So when we wrote about Deal Breakers, a very similar topic, back in March I think I basically answered this question instead of that one.  And honestly I still agree with (almost) everything I said.  I think I hit the nail on the head when it comes to spiritual things.   I still want my husband's actions to reflect an authentic sacramental love and a man who will lead me to heaven.  I don't see any that changing anytime soon.  No need to rewrite something that is already well written so please go back, read that post.

However, since I was a little bit more serious in that post I want to turn this one a wee bit more fun and superficial.  While those deal breakers are what it really boils down to I also know that the Lord has this way of answering our quirky desires.  So without further ado I present to you my top ten list of (a bit quirky and not so serious) qualities I look for in a husband.

1. The ability to not snore, because who wants to not sleep for the rest of their life.
2. The perfect height.  I have for a long time had this idea that I need to "fit" next to him when he has his arm around me.  I am guessing around 6 foot. 
3. Who am I kidding I also want him to be gooood looking.  No one else has to think he is cute but I know I want to think he is the cat's meow. 
4.  Please, please be able to change a diaper.  I change alot of diapers and I just really want a guy who knows how to do some basic child care because I do not want to teach you everything.  
5.  Likes to grill because I like me a smokey hamburger. 
6. Be silly.  There is something so fun and romantic about laughing and being silly with a guy.
7.  Like to drive because I hate to and am counting down the days until I have a handsome man to do some of the driving for me. 
8.  Please for the love of all that is good be a man and put the toilet seat down. 
9.  Be passionate in everything you do.  This one is a bit more serious but I just want my husband to be intentional about his job, his vocation, his life.  I want him to enjoy what he does for a living so that he never works a day in his life.   
10.  Don't love cats.  You can like them but don't love them.  That is just weird and I do not find it attractive.  (And yes I have had a bad experience with this.)

Well there you go.  10 Qualities that I seek in a husband.  The Lord does say ask and you say receive ;). 
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  1. Totally feel you on the height thing. And also if I marry someone short, our kids will be midgets and that's just cruel ;)
    Diapers and burgers... what else is there, really!? :D

  2. Bwahaha, love this list! Even though it's a little silly, like you said, that's an important part of it :-) I feel you on the cat thing. That would be a serious problem . . . and YES to being able to help with kids. And not snoring. Sounds about right to me!

  3. I'm wit you on the snoring and the cats!!! Keep both of those away!! and the toilet seat, mostly because I think even the lid should be down ... pretty cautious of the "particles" in the air on my toothbrush!!

  4. Fun list! If it helps, my dad snores like a buzz saw. My mom says she just kicks him until he wakes up enough to stop snoring, and that gives her time to go to sleep. It's worked for over 30 years, so she must be on to something! ;)