Monday, June 9, 2014

Sleeping with Men

Yeap not the title you immediately think will come from this blog. This topic isn't always agreed upon even in passionately Catholic circles.  Is it ok to sleep (zzzs) with men when you aren't married?

I was recently shown this article which clearly and beautifully presents the idea that no, it is not ok to sleep with your boyfriend when you are not married.

And I have to say, I agree.  I think sleeping with anyone is an intimate thing to do.  For me this includes that sacred time in the morning when you are still in your pajamas, sipping your coffee, and communing with the Lord.

Of course we want to share these moments with our guy, it makes us feel wanted, it makes us feel beautiful, it makes us feel loved.  But their are other ways to show this to each other when you are dating.  But sleeping together is something that I know I want saved for our married life together.

Now don't get me wrong I don't think this is a black and white, cold and fast rule.  When you are traveling often you don't have a choice but to wake up with a guy in a hostel or when visiting his family.  But in this case, intention comes into play.

What are your thoughts about this?  Have you set up this boundary in you own life? Do you agree? Disagree?
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  1. I agree with you - it's such an intimate thing and time that I'd rather just wait. I spent the night at my friend's house last weekend, and before I went downstairs, I adjusted my wardrobe so that even though I was in my pajamas, I was covered and "the girls" were taken care of. Save the intimacy for later! :)

  2. Amen! I've never experienced a situation (hostel, like you said) where it might be somewhat necessary. And honestly, it's VERY rare for a guy besides brothers/dad see me in my pj's. Some things just need to be saved and kept for more intimate moments! Plus, if we're talking about being in the same bed, how often does temptation not set in and cause things to go farther than just sleeping?

  3. My best friend is a guy, and so I've travelled with his family some and obviously that involves sleeping under the same roof (his brother's girlfriend and I in one room, he and his brother in the other). I've also once spent the night at a friend's house with his family after the Easter Vigil (it was too late to drive home), but we were obviously in separate rooms.